如(ru)何原諒那些(xie)傷(shang)害過你的人

Man is a social animal and ought to socialize, but with company around, there are times when egos tend to mingle along as well. This could result in exchanges of words that could put a strain on relationships. Continuous bashing of words with an individual could turn ugly and lead to hatred.
人都是社交動物，無法離開社會而生存(cun)，然而一旦周圍(wei)有了同(tong)伴，自(zi)尊心往往會作(zuo)祟，這就會導(dao)致言語交際時引(yin)發的緊張關(guan)系(xi)。持續用言語打擊(ji)別人可能會導(dao)致關(guan)系(xi)惡化，甚(shen)至(zhi)招(zhao)來仇恨(hen)。

The impact of hatred
仇恨帶來的影響
Hating someone is injurious to one’s own health since it causes anger within, and this annoyance can take a toll on one’s health if it builds too high.
討厭一個人對自身(shen)的健康也有壞處，因為體(ti)內總有一股怒氣(qi)，如果積壓的怒氣(qi)過多就(jiu)會對身(shen)體(ti)帶來(lai)傷害了。

Why Forgive?
為什么選擇原諒？
Mental balance applies towards good health. Since health is wealth, forgiveness is the way to go. Forgiving someone is like having a mental balance by letting go of any resentment or grudges towards an individual, which will help to clear the conscience and is very crucial for resolving relationships.
 精(jing)(jing)神的平和對(dui)可以帶來健康。健康是無(wu)價之寶，那為何不選擇(ze)原(yuan)諒呢(ni)。原(yuan)諒別人就(jiu)好(hao)比放下一些怨恨，達到精(jing)(jing)神的平和，可以凈化心靈同時解決關系危機。

There are a couple of C’s involved in burying the hatchet:
下(xia)面這(zhe)些C字關鍵(jian)詞是你“放(fang)下(xia)仇恨”時應該做到(dao)的：

Categorize
歸類
Many a time, we are not aware of why we hate someone and continue to walk on a path that disturbs one’s mental and physical well-being. We should be able to recognize the pattern that arises when we come across a certain human being. Once we are able to categorize the pattern, we can move to the next step.
很多時(shi)候，我們都沒有意(yi)識到(dao)到(dao)底為(wei)什么討厭這(zhe)個(ge)(ge)(ge)人(ren)(ren)，卻仍(reng)固執的怨恨著，擾亂(luan)著自己的精神和身體健(jian)康。遇到(dao)某個(ge)(ge)(ge)人(ren)(ren)的時(shi)候我們需要(yao)能(neng)夠歸(gui)類到(dao)底該采(cai)取何(he)種方式對待他，一旦能(neng)夠歸(gui)類了，我們就可以(yi)到(dao)下(xia)一個(ge)(ge)(ge)步驟(zou)。

Cause
緣由
We should try to search within ourselves with regard to what and how the individual has hurt us, and why we hate them. Finding a cause helps us to bring closure within ourselves, and we can open up to discussion within the self, and even with the person whom we hate.
我(wo)們(men)(men)要(yao)從自(zi)身出(chu)發(fa)找(zhao)出(chu)到底這個人(ren)是(shi)如何以(yi)及怎(zen)么傷害到我(wo)們(men)(men)的(de)，以(yi)及我(wo)們(men)(men)為什么討厭他(ta)們(men)(men)。找(zhao)到根源能讓自(zi)己停止(zhi)糾結下(xia)去，我(wo)們(men)(men)可以(yi)和(he)別人(ren)甚至和(he)討厭的(de)那個人(ren)去開誠布公的(de)討論。

Confront
面對
Coming face-to-face with the person whom one hates is a challenge, but confronting the individual will lead to peace of mind and a sound sleep at night. Brave up and face that person.
和討厭的(de)人(ren)(ren)面(mian)對面(mian)的(de)確是個挑戰，但面(mian)對別人(ren)(ren)時，頭腦會趨(qu)于(yu)冷靜，晚上也會睡個好覺。所(suo)以鼓起勇氣去面(mian)對這個人(ren)(ren)吧。

Conversation
對話
Once in the presence of the person who is hated, start a conversation and communicate about what bothers you. Being frank about what and how that person’s behavior irks oneself will help both discuss issues, and will eventually lead to clarification.
如果你(ni)(ni)討(tao)厭的(de)(de)人(ren)出現了，不(bu)妨(fang)兩個人(ren)好好聊聊，一起說(shuo)說(shuo)到底(di)什(shen)么惹(re)到你(ni)(ni)了。坦白(bai)的(de)(de)說(shuo)說(shuo)這個人(ren)的(de)(de)什(shen)么行為如何惹(re)到了你(ni)(ni)，這對(dui)討(tao)論以及最終解除誤會都有很大(da)的(de)(de)幫助。

Contrite
悔悟
Apologizing to the disliked person can do wonders for one’s physical and mental being, bringing happiness and contentment. Keeping one’s egos aside and expressing remorse is the key to forgiveness.
對不(bu)喜歡的那個(ge)人道歉對人的精(jing)神和身體會帶來幸福(fu)和滿足感，很神奇的哦！把什么自(zi)尊(zun)放到一邊去，表達出悔(hui)恨才是原諒的核心。

Be Compassionate with yourself
對自己有惻隱之心
Once you forgive a person, be patient and kind to your self. Time is a big healer, thus give time to heal—physically and emotionally. Express your pain and anxiety, and do not keep it bottled up. Appreciate the goodness of people around you, and visualize a new life with positive energy each day. This will help to shape each day free of pain and suffering.
一旦原(yuan)諒(liang)了別(bie)人，對(dui)自(zi)己有點(dian)耐心，也對(dui)自(zi)己好(hao)一點(dian)。時間是偉大的(de)(de)治愈師(shi)，會慢慢治愈你(ni)身(shen)體(ti)和精神上的(de)(de)創傷(shang)。把自(zi)己的(de)(de)痛苦和焦慮都表達出來，不要(yao)憋(bie)在心里。感激周圍人對(dui)你(ni)的(de)(de)好(hao)，每天用積極的(de)(de)態度看待新的(de)(de)生活(huo)。這樣能有效幫(bang)助你(ni)慢慢從痛苦中解脫出來。

Caution
謹慎
Once you made amends, set your boundaries to avoid repeating history so that you do not get hurt again. Be sure to keep a good distance from the person who triggered chaos in your mind and made you lose your sleep at night. Since we cannot change an individual, it’s smart to keep away from them.
一旦有(you)了教訓，你需要設定(ding)底線來(lai)避免歷史重演，這樣才能保證(zheng)你不(bu)會再(zai)受到傷害(hai)。和(he)那(nei)些會讓你頭腦發暈失(shi)眠的人(ren)(ren)保持點距(ju)離吧。既然我們無法改變一個人(ren)(ren)，不(bu)如(ru)聰明(ming)點遠離他(ta)們。

Humans want to walk on the forbidden path, and there are chances that we can get attracted to people who have raised our blood pressure previously. Thus, retrain your thinking by wishing well about the person whom you just forgave. Hope the best for him while being intelligent and making wise decisions with respect to your mental well-being.
人(ren)(ren)們總喜(xi)歡(huan)選(xuan)擇走不該走的(de)(de)路，也有可能我(wo)們會(hui)愛(ai)上(shang)先前讓(rang)我(wo)們血管(guan)爆棚的(de)(de)人(ren)(ren)。不管(guan)怎(zen)樣，換個思考方式，祝福(fu)那(nei)個你(ni)剛剛原(yuan)諒的(de)(de)人(ren)(ren)吧。為(wei)了(le)自己(ji)的(de)(de)精神健康，真(zhen)心去(qu)祝福(fu)他(ta)真(zhen)的(de)(de)是(shi)智慧和明(ming)智的(de)(de)決(jue)定。